I ran into this at SDA:
A “newfie” is someone from Newfoundland (I looked it up ;-)
So I thought “OK, so its going to be a sob story about friends and such. Feh. OK, I’ll sample it a bit.” It started out as one of those sort of Girly Sharing things with emotional content. Not my usual sort of thing. A traditionally raised young girl (at least from my POV as an old guy) copes with her left leaning friends rejection. She deals with it by choosing a centered principled life. By having confidence in herself and her values.
The way The Left tends to treat people is rather like a cult. You MUST conform or you will be rejected and shunned. I know a bit about this as my Grandmother was Amish and “married out” of the faith. The Amish use shunning for effect to keep folks in line and inside the church. That The Left also uses shunning and rejection tends to confirm it is a cult / religion in structure.
It starts out slow, but by about 8 to 12 minutes it becomes much more compelling. Someone with the strength of character to choose “to thyne own self be true” over being shaped and molded to some other person’s ends.
What she has not realized (yet) is that while losing a few friends near to hand now is painful, she has gained a thousand new friends.
Published on Sep 28, 2018
This is happening too often these days, but in solidarity with those going thru similar situations this is the story of how I have been shunned/disavowed by pretty much every friend I’ve ever had as a result of political/social differences.
Do not let people be condescending to you for your sense of humour, what offensive words you use, what your social and political beliefs are. Know that if you do and you bend to their will just to avoid rejection you sacrifice your authenticity and capacity for self respect.
Be yourself, speak truthfully, no exceptions.
DARE TO BE HONEST AND FEAR NO LABOR!
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I have “distanced” from a friend of about 45 years as he has gone from centrist to less tolerant PC Left. I have “distanced” (not by my choice) from family who have rejected me as they moved Left.
I have lived that same experience.
It is no fun, but it makes you stronger. Especially when you realize “It isn’t you.” I’m comfortable with friends who have opinions I do not endorse. I don’t care if a friend endorses abortion or hates it. I don’t care if a friend is Democrat, Republican, or not.
All I ask is that as I accept them, they accept me. Some of my most memorable experiences have been arguing some points in a coffee shop with friends from the other side of the fence.
But something has changed to make The Left into the Intolerant Vindictive Left. The “If you are not with me, you are against me!” mentality that now drives so many on The Left. I don’t know where it came from, but will be happy when it leaves.
So may “Critical Condition” enjoy her acceptance into this hardy band of Brothers and Sisters of self reliant, self defining, individuals. Folks who have no litmus test for friendship, who do not require that you repeat the catechism for membership. Folks who do not shun you for having your own thoughts. (We may ask about them, or even challenge you to a discussion of them, but it is far better to have your own thoughts, and far more interesting, then to be a parrot of things you do not understand or really care about.)
With that, the video:
Such a beautiful fulfilled and centered person. I’d be happy to be her friend.